Why you're only attracting men you don't have chemistry with or men who are unavailable

Something I always say is that true, lasting chemistry with a man gets built over time,

so you shouldn’t look for instant fireworks on the first date,

as it’s typically a red flag if you’ve had the pattern of being drawn to unavailable men in the past

This is true, AND

I am NEVER asking you to settle for guys you have zero physical attraction with from the get go

I do believe strongly and have witnessed this in myself and clients that with the right man

your physical attraction will actually keep building and strengthening over time,

if you are both truly available, and a great match for one another

But if you've had a pattern of falling for men that are unavailable,

then instant fireworks is usually a sign that you’re about to repeat that same old pattern

In my recent masterclass Date like a Queen to Call in Your King

A woman shared that she felt frustrated and defeated because she only ever seems to attract "nice guys" who she's not physically attracted to

She said she's been following this advice about not looking for instant fireworks,

but she is sick of forcing herself to give them a chance as the physical attraction she's waiting for never seems to kick in, and it never seems to work out

Do you relate to this?

If so KEEP READING!

This was my advice to her:

I told her that if she's been following all my Magnetic Dating Guidelines, which includes holding high

standards, stating your values and vision for your relationship clearly and up front,

as well as dating multiple men at a time (without being physically intimate) until a commitment or exclusivity has been made, etc—

Then the only other place to look is...inward

I told her that attracting men she has no spark with, is safe

It is a protection mechanism because with them,

she never has to actually open her heart,

let someone in,

and surrender fully to a man

She never has to potentially risk getting hurt

Because the nice guys she isn't attracted to are "safe" and ultimately there is no future with them

(ironically, just like with unavailable guys!)

Oof.

Talk about a tough love moment

She said my feedback was dead on and thanked me 🥹

Her experience is one that I know SO many single ladies relate to

And while illuminating this pattern can sound like a big downer, there is an upside

Because YOU my love, are fully capable of healing

And of dropping your sneaky self protection mechanisms,

and of opening your heart to the HOT man of your dreams, who is ready for commitment

This does requires deep inner work-- which is my specialty ;)

Inner work as in:

- healing your inner child (who is literally often frozen in time waiting for you to reclaim her, advocate for

her and integrate her from 20+ years ago)

- releasing any baggage, lingering residue and past hurt from exes or "situationships"

- processing and releasing your parents/caregivers negative dynamics regarding love

- shifting your identity, creating a positive self image and positive mindset about the love you get to have

- and coming home to your authenticity, essence, and open heartedness

^ No big deal 😉 hehe!

The inner work is 95% of the battle

Because when you've aligned in the ways I listed above--

Dating with healthy boundaries,

holding high standards,

speaking your truth,

following all my practical dating tips inside my Magnetic Dating Guidelines—

all becomes a piece of cake because you've become a truly AVAILABLE woman

And when you're truly available for the hot, committed man--

He walks into your life in the most divinely timed, perfect way (and quickly!!)

The inner work is my JAM

It's what I've always loved supporting women with, and what I've been coaching on since 2014 and still deeply love!

It brings me SO much joy and fulfillment to support women like you in this way

And I that nurturing feminine energy is what I deeply crave myself,

So I love to give it 🥰

If you are ready to do this deep inner work with me:

I would love to support you inside my high level coaching program, The Feminine Way to Ravishing Love

This is the space where you get to work intimately with me on transforming these patterns (even if you’ve had them for years or decades)

In this program you receive personalized coaching, support and accountability to master the inner work

So you can become fully available and your dream man can flow into your life quickly

We are currently enrolling into the program but spaces are limited

If you're interested in learning more,

Click here to book a Consultation Call with me!

You'll see more program details as you fill out the intake form and then over the phone we'll dive deep,

I'll answer any questions you have and together we'll see if you're a good fit!

I'm so excited to chat with you if you feel called to exploring working together

Sending you so much love

Talk soon!

xoxo

Chelsea